If you grew up in church (or even if you didn’t), you’ve probably heard extensive exhortation on being a Proverbs 31 woman. Every Mother’s Day, that famous line, the one about her children arising and calling her blessed, makes it’s way to the front of Hallmark cards and sappy Facebook shoutouts. Proverbs 31 has become such a common passage that we regularly overlook it and try to find something less mainstream to reference. But it is mainstream for a reason. There are principles and wisdom that deserve examination and application to our daily lives.
Those of you who completed the 10 Day to Peace Challenge (Pssst, if you haven’t joined, there’s still time!) know that I am a big believer in starting your morning with intentionality. So here are 6 ways to start your morning with Proverbs 31 intentionality:
1. Rise Early (Before You Need To)
“She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household” – Proverbs 31:15, ESV
The Proverbs 31 woman gets a head start on her day. She rises early and starts getting things accomplish so that others can make the most of their day as well. To practice this in your life, get a head start on your day. Wake up before you’re required to and begin the morning well. Equip those around you to begin their mornings well. Make breakfast. Lay out your children’s clothes. Do whatever you can to ensure that the morning goes smoothly.
Rising early helps you start out with the upper hand, time. When you have time on your side, you are not racing from one demand to the next but are able to cultivate a day around your priorities.
2. Get to Work
“She seeks wool and flax, and works with willing hands.” – Proverbs 31:13, ESV
Work with willing hands. We have been created to work. Even in the Garden of Eden, Mankind was given the task of caring for the land and animals. Stop treating your work as the enemy and start working with willing hands.
Set intentions for your day and start early. Seek out meaningful work to occupy your time. When we act like victims of our day, waking at the last possible minute, begrudgingly setting to work, we are setting ourselves up for failure. We are called to work and to work well. Get a head start and throw yourself completely into the tasks the Lord has given to you.
3. Be Willing to Search for the Best
“She considers a field and buys it; With the fruit of her hands she plans a vineyard.” – Proverbs 31:16
Piggy-backing off working hard, work hard with discernment. Don’t just throw yourself into any task, determine what is the best use of your time. Consider carefully the options before you and determine what will be the best option for your family. Then get to work and throw yourself into doing the hard labor of bringing your plan to fruition.
4. Remember the Poor
“She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out to the needy” – Proverbs 31:20, ESV
Right in the midst of a passage on what a virtuous woman looks like is this foundational statement. This woman, the Godly woman, is seeking out the needy and serving them with open hands. This isn’t an afterthought, it is a foundational part of her life.
Last year, a friend reminded me that when Jesus speaks of separating the sheep from the goats in Matthew 25, caring for others as unto the Lord Himself is foundational. Jesus doesn’t ask if their laundry was folded. He doesn’t ask how well the family room was decorated. He asks if they fed the hungry and clothed the naked. The Proverbs 31 woman does that. When you are starting out your day, intentionally think of ways you can reach out to those in need in your community.
Can you keep extra water bottles or bags of basic supplies in your car to hand out? What role does your church play in helping those in need and how can you join in? Is there an organization you can partner with to reach out to the people around you? Love INC is an amazing nationwide organization that I recommend looking into if you are unsure of where to start.
As a Christian, this is not an optional extra but needs to be a foundational part of your life. Taking a minute in the morning to pray for those in need and to ask the Lord to provide you with opportunities to serve is a great way to keep this priority a part of your life.
5. Know Where You Are Going
“She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household are clothed in scarlet.” – Proverbs 31:21, ESV
Focus on the long-term needs of your family. Perceive what is to come and make a plan for how to care for it. Your daily works will often piece together this longterm plan. It takes conscious effort to draw your mind to the future and to prepare. Remember equally that, whatever comes, we are in the hands of a good God who will provide for our needs. We must steward the lives He has given us but, come what may, we can, “laugh at the time to come” (Proverbs 31:25, ESV).
6. Remember What Matters in Life
“Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her of the fruit of her hands, and let her works praise her in the gates.” – Proverbs 31:30-31, ESV
I would be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge everyone’s favorite Proverbs 31 passage. But like I said earlier, it became these favorites are treasured for a reason. Few verses encapsulate the heart of the Christian woman more clearly.
The woman of God has her priorities in order. Above all else, she fears the Lord. This deep, abiding reverence for the Lord and His commands is the truest part of her life.
This is the center of being a Proverbs 31 woman, putting the Lord above all else and keeping our eyes fixed on His goodness. He is the anchor of our hope (Heb. 6:19) and the one who starts and brings to completion our faith (Heb. 12:2). So keep on, weary women. Keep pressing into the Savior. Keep savoring His goodness. And make this the very first and the most important part of your day. Before anything else, remember where you stand before God and seek after Him as a bride after her groom.