The Beauty of Confession: 3 Ways to Incorporate it into Your Prayer Life
Confession used to be a four letter word in my dictionary. It was icky. Sin was a part of my life, but it was a part that I pushed down and pretended wasn’t there. If I was forgiven, why would I ever dwell on my sinfulness? If I kept ignoring it and just focused on doing good and trusting God, surely it would disappear.
John Green wrote in his book The Fault in Our Stars that, “Pain demands to be felt.” Well, I’m here to say that sin demands to be dealt with. Ignoring our sin does not deprive it of its effectiveness, it deprives us of the remedy.
James 5 tells us to confess our sins that we may be healed. We cannot ignore it. No amount of pushing it down, doing good, or pretending will make it go away. Facing it head on is the only way to heal.
Thankfully, we don’t have to face this process alone. We are equipped by the Holy Spirit. He convicts our hearts and prompts us to repent. Jesus is our mediator before the Father. His blood is the propitiation for our sins. Because of His sacrifice, there is no fear in confession.
But sin cannot be ignored. Confession must be a regular part of your Christian walk.
The first time I participated in any sort of formal confession, I was afraid. Previously, I prayed to confess when random sins came to mind, but I didn’t make a practice of examining my sinfulness. Intentionally setting aside time in service, joining with other believers, and confessing my shortcomings was terrifying. But it was one of the most healing things I have ever done.
Recognizing who I was, a desperately wicked sinner in need of desperate grace, seeing other believers acknowledge this and knowing that I was not alone, and seeing God pour out His mercy and love upon His people, was a magnificent experience. There is no display of love quite like it.
I realized that, while corporately confessing my sins was a beautiful expression of my faith and reliance on God, this needed to become a regular part of my Christian walk. The problem was, this passage was so foreign, I didn’t know where to begin. Here are a few of the practices that have helped me begin incorporating this into my routine:
1) I Utilized Pre-Written Prayers
This may seem counter intuitive, but using the prayers of others helped me practice forming my own. It helped me form a habit of deep examination and recognizing my sinfulness and God’s grace. Specifically, Valley of Vision prayer book was a beautiful place to begin.
2) I Started Using Prayer Beads
This helped me find a balance between praising God for who He is and what He has done, confessing my sins, and petitioning Him for my requests. If you are looking to add balance to your prayer life, I highly recommend this route. Read more on why I developed a practice of using prayer beads here.
3) I Prayed Through Scripture
I have a terrible habit of minimizing my sin. Scripture simply doesn’t allow that. Praying through passages and recognizing myself in the sinfulness was a wonderful way to get into the Biblical habit of recognizing my sin. It was also a wonderful way to not only recognize your sin, but to remind yourself that Christ’s blood is efficacious and has cleansed you. Psalm 51 is a beauty passage to start with.
Confession is a beautiful practice. It is a wonderful way to be reminded of the beauty of what Christ has done and the depth of His forgiveness. While there are seasons, namely Advent and Lent, to focus on repentance, this season of Ordinary Time is a great opportunity to start incorporating the practice of a more regular time of confession.
Begin to set aside time and begin to make a habit of regularly examining your life and acknowledging the grace of God and the sufficiency of Christ’s work over your life. But go one step further. James doesn’t just tell us to confess, He tells us to confess our sins to one another. There is a need to bring others into our life so that they can hold you accountable. The beauty of the Christian Church is acknowledgment that none of us deserve the grace we’ve been shown. It good and right that we should come alongside each other.
Recognizing and repenting of the sin in your life isn’t dwelling on the negative, it’s recognizing the true depth to which you are loved.
Jordan | Read. Eat. Repeat.
This was a wonderfully helpful post. Confession is something that has been on my mind a lot recently and its amazing how God will put answers in your path (like this post). Thank you!
BaileyJordan | Read. Eat. Repeat.
He really does provide for us. Often before we even know what we need.
I think prayer beads are a wonderful idea. I have used them several times in my faith journey and they really help me focus on my prayer.
I love my prayer beads! Do you have any resources you like? I’m always looking for new ones.
Very important component of a life in Christ. 1 John says if we confess He’s faithful and just to forgive and cleanse us from all unrighteous! Thats amazing!! But we have to acknowledge our wrong. It also says that whoever says they have fellowship with God but live in sin/darkness lie- and don’t have the Word (Jesus) in them. If we want relationship with God we must CONFESS our sins before Him. There is no way around it. Thanks for highlighting this truth for us.
Amen, Ronnie! It is so important that we stop and confess and live in unity with God.
It’s unfortunate that, as you say, “repent” or “repentance” has become a negative word in the church. Not only is it a necessary requirement for salvation, it’s an ongoing part of the Christian life.
It really is. I’m so grateful for my church and the restored vision of repentance it has given me. I hope this is something I can pass on to others. It is so liberating.
I know that prayer is incredibly powerful in my life. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for reading and sharing, Celeste.
Prayer is a beautiful way to communicate with the Lord. I know that prayer can sometimes be difficult but it is so encouraging how the Lord welcomes us into His arms.
Indeed it is! So grateful for God’s goodness is welcoming us in prayer.
I think it is so important to make confessing our sins to God a part of our day, I find it helpful to be intentional about setting aside a certain time each day. Although, I often just speak to God throughout the day and ask forgiveness right then too, then I move on and no He has forgiven.
Yes. I often try to pray when I realize I’m in sin but I know that I also definitely need to set aside intentional time to examine myself.
You summed it up so perfectly there at the end – it’s not dwelling on the negative, it’s knowing how much we are loved and forgiven! A beautiful way to look at it 🙂
We are loved more than we can fathom. Such a beautiful truth to dwell on.
Great post Bailey. We sure have to confess of our sins rather than think they’ll go away or just act better. I like that you say not confessing deprives us of remedy – sooo true!
Thank you, T <3
Natalie @ Obsessive Cooking Disorder
A nice way to incorporate confession into a busy life!
BaileyNatalie @ Obsessive Cooking Disorder
Thank you for taking time to read, Natalie.