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The Gospel in Your Marriage

As believers, the Gospel is at the core of everything we do. It overrides every self-help book, trend in psychology, and piece of advice you receive from a well-meaning friend.

Our sin, Christ’s holy incarnation, death, and resurrection, it reaches into our hearts and our marriages. We have an opportunity to live out our faith in every interaction we have with our spouse, whether others bear witness to it or not. It is seen in the quiet Saturday mornings, in the crazy Monday race to work, in the discussion on which movie to watch. We get share His work, the story of the Gospel, every day in every moment of our lives.

Because the Gospel speaks into everything we do, it applies to our marriage.

It applies because your spouse is wrong

But so are you.

Recognizing your deep-set failure, your shortcomings in life, it’s the starting place for moving forward. Romans tells us that we’ve all sinned, we’ve all fallen short. That means your spouse and that means you. It doesn’t matter who is more right or less right, because in light of glory, we’re all wrong.

Deep down, we’re all justifiers. We stand before one another and point and yell and find all the specks in our spouse’s eye to avoid the plank in our own. No matter what our spouse’s sin is, it doesn’t negate our own shortcomings. We stand on an equal level of failure before God. The Gospel makes it clear that our efforts can never do what Jesus did. This changes the way we respond to our spouse’s sin.

 

But that means the Gospel gives our marriage grace

The example set for us has been grace. Vast, unprecedented grace that covered the depth of all our icky, wrongful sin. Because the punishment for sin was met on Calvary and it is no longer on our heads. So we don’t need to hold it over the head of another.

If we are to love our enemies as ourselves, that means we are supposed to love the enemies we share our last name and our bed with. It means we show love when frustration would be easier. It means there is grace for the dirty socks that missed the hamper for the 8th time that day. It means that we love and love and forgive and forgive up to seventy times seven.

In the weary moments of our lives, of our marriages, we must drink deeply from the well of Living Water. We must ask the Holy Spirit to fill us with the grace that we’ve been given. Grace that keeps pressing on, keeps believing, keeps overlooking offense. This is the grace that is life-giving.

The Gospel gives our marriage the hope of context 

Our marriages are not the end goal. They will end. Depending on the current state of your marriage, this may either come as a relief or cause tears to start brimming up in your eyes. But no matter which group you fall into there is good news. Our marriages will be fulfilled.

Revelation 19 paints a beautiful picture of the marriage supper of the Lamb. The Church, the Bride of Christ, will be presented beautifully to the Bridegroom. Our earthly marriages have grasped at the beauty of this unity but, as anyone who has been pronounced, “man and wife” and walked past the end of the pews can tell you, we don’t live up to the standard we’ve been given.

But we can wait, longingly, for the day when this will be fulfilled. All will be made right and the echoes we grasp at on earth will be fully revealed. On this day, we will stand and say, “This is it! This is the beauty we tried to capture on earth. And it is more glorious than we could have ever imagined.”

The Gospel means God’s work in our lives isn’t finished

Paul and Timothy tell us in Philippians 1 that, “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (ESV). No matter where we are, no matter where we are going, God is in control. He will be faithful to the work He has begun in our hearts and in our marriage.

He is redeeming every aspect of our lives. In Romans 8, He promises us that all things will work for the good of those He loves. Our lives are being woven into a beautiful tapestry, transforming us into the image of Christ.

Christ Himself set the example of what a marriage looks like. He let go of His glory to dwell with us, endured unthinkable suffering, and ultimately sacrificed His life for the sake of us, His bride. We have been loved to the point of death. The pattern of sacrifices is essential in a healthy marriage. As we keep dying to ourselves, may we rise with Christ and embrace the life He has given us.

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The Comments

  • Wanda Lopez
    August 3, 2017

    Love this post. This is a topic not talked enough. I’ve seen marriages and what it truly entails being taken for granted. I’ve been married for almost 18 years and there is not a day that we are put to the test in some way or another. It could just be extending grace to each other.

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    • Bailey
      Wanda Lopez
      August 3, 2017

      It is far too often overlooked for simple “fixes” and quick techniques. In reality, the Gospel is the only thing that will heal your marriage and it is hard, sacrificial, life-giving work.

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  • Kristen
    August 3, 2017

    Great thoughts. I love how you break down what the Gospel is, what marriage is and you literally marry them together. You are right we need to look forward to the future and extend grace to our spouse as Christ as has extended undeserving grace to us. I will be following your blog I appreciate your Christlike perspective.

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    • Bailey
      Kristen
      August 17, 2017

      Thank you so much, Kristen. I’m glad to hear my words resonated with you.

      Reply
  • Beka
    August 3, 2017

    Love this post. I agree wholeheartedly, but sometimes it’s really hard to remember in the moment! I’ve said to myself before, “Jesus died for you on the cross, so I’m pretty sure you can put up with …..[whatever hubby did/didn’t do]” Our marriages are meant to be a picture of the gospel and you demonstrated that point beautifully.

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    • Bailey
      Beka
      August 17, 2017

      Yes. It is hard to live out the Gospel but the rewards are so sweet.

      Reply
  • Andrea
    August 3, 2017

    All marriages have to start with God in the center

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    • Bailey
      Andrea
      August 17, 2017

      Amen! Definitely the key to a successful marriage.

      Reply
  • Nina McClure
    August 3, 2017

    Whew isn’t this true! I’ve often wondered how marriages can ever survive without the hope and power of the Gospel!

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    • Bailey
      Nina McClure
      August 17, 2017

      I do too. I can’t imagine forgiving someone without first acknowledging the depth to which I’ve been forgiven.

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  • Angela
    August 3, 2017

    Grace. We’d be nowhere without it, especially in marriage. We’ve been married for 10 years and grace & reliance on Christ as part of every single day for us. Beautiful reminders in your post!

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    • Bailey
      Angela
      August 17, 2017

      Such a great testimony to God’s goodness. May He grant you many more years.

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  • LauraOinAK
    August 7, 2017

    Wonderful post that reminds us of how Christian marriage should be. I definitely find myself trying to justify actions at times.

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    • Bailey
      LauraOinAK
      August 17, 2017

      I do too. It is a daily struggle to let down by guard and remember that I am accountable to God only and that’s He’s forgiven me. Such a wonderful motivation to forgive others!

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  • Patty @ Glorious Within Her
    August 11, 2017

    I really appreciate the insights on marriage that you share here. Grace is vital to the success of a marriage! In addition, I agree that it is so important that we live out the gospel in our marriages. The promise you point out in Romans 8, that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purposes is key as well! Thank you for this!

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    • Bailey
      Patty @ Glorious Within Her
      August 17, 2017

      Isn’t it amazing how He works within our brokenness?

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  • Kristi
    October 11, 2017

    Christ is redeeming every aspect of our lives! Praise the Lord. And I am so thankful that we have the living water as our life source through the good and difficult days.

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    • Bailey
      Kristi
      October 12, 2017

      Isn’t He good? Glory be to God!

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  • Kristin Cook
    October 12, 2017

    Living out the gospel in marriage is so important and I love the point you make about the gospel applying because my spouse is wrong- and so am I. We are sinful, but the gospel provides grace. We make mistakes, but the gospel provides grace.

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    • Bailey
      Kristin Cook
      October 12, 2017

      We are all so sinful but so loved and forgiven despite it. Thank God for grace.

      Reply
  • Faith
    October 13, 2017

    This is a wonderful reflection! I especially love knowing that our story, and God’s work, is not finished. We continue it every day! Thank you for sharing such a lovely post.

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  • Jordan
    December 19, 2017

    “Because the punishment for sin was met on Calvary and it is no longer on our heads. So we don’t need to hold it over the head of another.” Amen! I once heard a pastor say that refusing to forgive your spouse for something was like saying their sin against you was greater than your sin against Jesus. I’ve always remembered that, because it was so convicting for me! Great post 🙂

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  • Fran Maynard
    December 19, 2017

    What a wonderful post! I loved your quote-“The example set for us has been grace. Vast, unprecedented grace that covered the depth of all our icky, wrongful sin. Because the punishment for sin was met on Calvary and it is no longer on our heads. So we don’t need to hold it over the head of another.” Grace in our marriages and for one another! Thanks so much for sharing!

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  • anne- onedeterminedlife
    December 19, 2017

    I love this so much! Our marriages are a perfect place to show grace. God gives us the chance to show love to our husbands even in their imperfections.

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  • Sarah
    December 19, 2017

    This is so beautiful!!! Thank you for reminding me.

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