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Can I Stop Pretending to be a Good Person? 

Can I stop pretending to be a good person? Because the truth is, the facade is exhausting. I don’t want to wait patiently on the Lord. I would rather sit at home and watch Netflix than open my doors to the least of these. And, often, Sunday mornings make me want to worship the Bed of Divine Comfort instead of pulling myself away to worship the true God.

But yet, I keep pretending like none of this is true.

If I’m having a bad day, I might mention it but I’ll quickly follow it up with a smile and, “But God is good.” Why do I do that? Of course God is good and it is good to remind ourselves of that truth but, in the moment, that’s not what I’m feeling.

I am not a good person.

I pretend like my busyness is an act of service, when, in reality, it is a selfish way of avoiding conversation where my flaws might be exposed.

I am not a good person.

I mention publicly the limited time I’ve spent in prayer without mentioned the state of apathy my heart is in or how little time I actually spend praying.

I am not a good person.

I perpetuate the idea that while, I am a sinner, I am a pretty good person. I haven’t killed anyone. I am not a thief. I’ve never committed adultery.

But I am not a good person.

I pretend like I’m a good person, like this is my natural state because, if I let my guard down, if I acted in a moment of vulnerability and showed you my true colors, you might reject me. Click To Tweet

I pretend like I’m a good person, like this is my natural state because, if I let my guard down, if I acted in a moment of vulnerability and showed you my true colors, you might reject me.

When I pretend like I am good, when I lead you to believe that I am holding it all together pretty well by myself, I present to you a false picture of who my God is and what He has done for me.

The great and merciful God did not come for the good people. He did not come for those who could handle the temptations and trials of this world. He came for the broken and the weak. He came for people like me.

We live in an age of “good” people.

When I pretend like I am good, when I lead you to believe that I am holding it all together pretty well by myself, I present to you a false picture of who my God is and what He has done for me. Click To Tweet

None of us want to acknowledge our shortcomings or sinfulness. We’d rather pretend it’s solely in the past and focus positive thinking.

And I am as guilty of that as the next person. Instead of taking my sin seriously, I try to boast in my own ability to do that right thing… most of the time. But when I refuse to take my sin seriously, I am communicating to myself and the world that I do not take my God seriously.

If I believe that Jesus meant it when he said, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick. I came not to call the righteous, but sinners,” then I believe that He not only allows someone like me to come to Him, but He embraces me (Mark 2:17, ESV).

Lord, I believe. Help my unbelief.

We don’t have to have it all together. Jesus does not expect us to be good people. He came because He knew that none, not a single one, of us were good.

What unites us as Christians isn’t our do-goodness, but a realization of the brokenness of our sin and the healing that comes from the precious blood of the Lamb who was slain on our behalf.

What unites us as Christians isn’t our do-goodness, but a realization of the brokenness of our sin and the healing that comes from the precious blood of the Lamb who was slain on our behalf. Click To Tweet

So no, I am not a good person. And I’m done pretending I am. Because when I pretend to be something I’m not, I am hiding the work that God is doing to conform me to the image of His Son by pretending to have already achieved it. I’m discouraging fellow believers who are struggling and depriving us all of the chance to gently come alongside one another in encouragement.

Will you join me? Can we stand as the broken? Can we unite, not as a trophy case for the perfect people whose struggles are behind them but as a hospital which welcomes those who bear the scars of spiritual warfare?

Can we unite, not as a trophy case for the perfect people whose struggles are behind them but as a hospital which welcomes those who bear the scars of spiritual warfare? Click To Tweet

Instead of presenting a polished person before others, let us truly come alongside one another in a pursuit of holiness. But friends, let’s start with a truth acknowledgment that we are not good people. We are a sinful people with a perfect Savior.

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  • Ashley | Honey & Pine
    February 12, 2018

    YES GIRL! I LOVE THIS!!! I struggle with this myself sometimes and this is such an encouragement to me today.

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  • Stacey
    February 12, 2018

    I remember Paul said that we are cursed if we say “Well, I am a good person” we are not good people and can not rely on good works. Good works is not enough. You are right this mindset in today’s age need to change, but the only way it will change is by us and our reflection of Christ.

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  • Tami
    February 12, 2018

    I recently found your blog and I’m loving all of your posts, especially this one! It’s exactly what I needed to here lately. <3 Thank you so much for sharing and I can't wait to read more from you!

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  • Erin
    February 12, 2018

    This line, “But when I refuse to take my sin seriously, I am communicating to myself and the world that I do not take my God seriously.” Yikes! I definitely want to make more of Him and His sacrifice and His GOODNESS! What an excellent reminder! Thank you for this!

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  • Katie | HOSPITABLE HOMEMAKER
    February 13, 2018

    Oh Bailey! I just love your heart in this and the truth it speaks! How much healing would come to our own souls and our Christian communities (not to mention our witness) if we recognized our own lack and the grace that rises up to meet us! <3

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  • Sue Donaldson
    February 13, 2018

    The church is one big hospital. But I can forget and think I’m Florence (Nightengale) instead of realizing that I’m needed – on the stretcher, talking with the other patients!

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  • Amy @ orison orchards
    February 21, 2018

    What beautiful sentiments! I think we would all do well to remember that we are broken and in need of our Savior!

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  • Lindsay |
    February 22, 2018

    Your words speak such truth! I’m not a good person, and I’m sick of pretending to be one too. It’s when we let people into our brokenness that God’s amazing grace really shines through. The first step is admitting that we don’t have it all figured out. Thanks for this reminder.

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  • Kalyn
    February 22, 2018

    Such a transparent post – thank you for sharing! It’s so true. “Yeah, I’m a sinner, but I’m still a good person.” I totally live my life by that line of thought too.

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  • Grace
    February 25, 2018

    Thank you. …I have seriously struggled in this area….it’s was a great encouragement to me…

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  • Candy
    March 6, 2018

    Always give thanks first. Ask what is needed. Wait for answers. Might not come immediately

    Reply
  • Steph
    April 14, 2019

    I came across your blog when I’m browsing some “pretending” quoted on Pinterest. Wow. I can totally relate to everything you’ve said on your blog. It’s actually exhausting to pretend that you’ve got everything together just because you’re a christian & most people expect you to always be at you best when in fact, you’re not. ?

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  • Jacqueline J Hopfensperger
    June 4, 2021

    Thank you,thank you thank you! This needed to be said. When I read this I wanted to shout THIS IS ME!

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  • Arnica
    June 10, 2021

    NEEDED THIS SO BAD🥺❤️

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Baruch, as you may recall from the book of Jeremiah, was the scribe of Jeremiah. This is a prophetic book written by Baruch calling the people of Jerusalem to repent of their idol worship and return to the Lord. 
Baruch is a great reminder of the importance of confession. The book opens with a call to make respond.
Then they wept, and fasted, and prayed before the Lord; and they collected money, each giving what he could – Baruch 1:5-6 RSVCE 
Baruch is a collection of the response to sin – both the acknowledgment of sin and the call to God’s mercy. 
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Baruch, as you may recall from the book of Jeremiah, was the scribe of Jeremiah. This is a prophetic book written by Baruch calling the people of Jerusalem to repent of their idol worship and return to the Lord. Baruch is a great reminder of the importance of confession. The book opens with a call to make respond. Then they wept, and fasted, and prayed before the Lord; and they collected money, each giving what he could – Baruch 1:5-6 RSVCE Baruch is a collection of the response to sin – both the acknowledgment of sin and the call to God’s mercy. #christianwoman #graceupongrace #jesusgirl #inspiredfaith #womenlivingwell #jesuscalling #faithfilledcaptions #catholicblogger #Catholicconvert #CatholicWoman #chasingsacred #christianwomenleaders #bibleverse #biblestudy #christianblogger #faithinhim #proverbs31woman #faithful #Godisgood #encouragementgallery #godslove #christianposts #christianquote #prayer #prayertime #biblequotes #bibleinspiration
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The Book of Sirach is part of the Wisdom literature of the Bible. It was also written during the Maccabean revolt to encourage the people to hold fast to their Jewish faith and not to neglect the traditions and commandments handed down to them. 
Sirach is one of the books of the Bible found among the Dead Sea Scrolls in the late 1940s. It is also found in every copy of the Septuagint suggesting that is was considered to be Scripture by the Greek speaking Jews of that period.
It is full of practical, clear wisdom that is incredibly applicable to our lives today such as: 
The greater you are, the more you must humble yourself; so you will find favor in the sight of the Lord. - Sirach 3:18
The higher your position, the more you have to actively seek humility. When you are in a low position, when you rely on others, humility is a more natural disposition and you recognize your dependence on God. When you are great, you need to actively seek humility. 
Do not say, “Because of the Lord I left the right way”; for he will not do what he hates. - Sirach 15:11
This is pretty straightforward. We cannot blame the Lord when we choose sin. The Lord does not do what He hates. He will always provide a way for us to choose good and it adds to our shame when we choose sin and blame God for it. 
A slip on the pavement is better than a slip of the tongue; so the downfall of the wicked will occur speedily. - Sirach 20:18
As the Book of James expands upon the importance of bridling your tongue but more abut consistently in the Book of Sirach we are exhorted to keep charge over our tongues. Ironically, this is much easier said than done. 
Whether you’re new to the wisdom literature or have spent years pouring over proverbs, Sirach is a great place to begin in living a wiser, more biblical life. 
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The Book of Sirach is part of the Wisdom literature of the Bible. It was also written during the Maccabean revolt to encourage the people to hold fast to their Jewish faith and not to neglect the traditions and commandments handed down to them. Sirach is one of the books of the Bible found among the Dead Sea Scrolls in the late 1940s. It is also found in every copy of the Septuagint suggesting that is was considered to be Scripture by the Greek speaking Jews of that period. It is full of practical, clear wisdom that is incredibly applicable to our lives today such as: The greater you are, the more you must humble yourself; so you will find favor in the sight of the Lord. - Sirach 3:18 The higher your position, the more you have to actively seek humility. When you are in a low position, when you rely on others, humility is a more natural disposition and you recognize your dependence on God. When you are great, you need to actively seek humility. Do not say, “Because of the Lord I left the right way”; for he will not do what he hates. - Sirach 15:11 This is pretty straightforward. We cannot blame the Lord when we choose sin. The Lord does not do what He hates. He will always provide a way for us to choose good and it adds to our shame when we choose sin and blame God for it. A slip on the pavement is better than a slip of the tongue; so the downfall of the wicked will occur speedily. - Sirach 20:18 As the Book of James expands upon the importance of bridling your tongue but more abut consistently in the Book of Sirach we are exhorted to keep charge over our tongues. Ironically, this is much easier said than done. Whether you’re new to the wisdom literature or have spent years pouring over proverbs, Sirach is a great place to begin in living a wiser, more biblical life. #bibletime #biblereading #readyourbible #proverbs31woman #proverbs31 #womenintheword #savedbygrace #virtuouswoman #godlywoman #godsgirl #christianliving #butgod #givemejesus #trustgod #daughteroftheking #walkbyfaith #beautyfromashes #graceupongrace #dailydevotional #faithjourney #jesuslover #faithblogger #godisgood #graceoverperfection #michiganblogger #biblescripture
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The Book of Wisdom full of poetic principles and outlines how to live life well. Written around the time of the Maccabean revolt, it is written in the style of Solomon (and is sometimes referred to as “The Wisdom of Solomon”) but was written by later authors.
While this book was not accepted in the Jewish cannon, it is in every copy of the Greek Septuagint but it was quote by St Augustine over 800 times and, most importantly, was declared Scripture at the Councils of Hippo and Carthage. 
It focuses on Wisdom guiding the lives of the faithful, the follies of the wicked, and focuses heavily on our future home with God and the life to come. 
For those of you familiar with the Nicene Creed, the Book of Wisdom is one of the sources of inspiration of our description of Jesus Christ. The reference to Christ being “Light from Light” is taken from Wisdom 7:26 which refers to Wisdom as being a “reflection of eternal light.” 
There are also several passages in Wisdom which foretell the death of Christ. One of my favorite passages is Wisdom 14:7, “Blessed is the wood by which righteousness comes,” which reminds me how truly blessed is the cross which held the Savior of the world, our perfect Sacrifice. 
Wisdom is very similar to the book of Proverbs in length and style. It points constantly to the Lord who, as James tells us, is ready to give wisdom to those who ask.
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The Book of Wisdom full of poetic principles and outlines how to live life well. Written around the time of the Maccabean revolt, it is written in the style of Solomon (and is sometimes referred to as “The Wisdom of Solomon”) but was written by later authors. While this book was not accepted in the Jewish cannon, it is in every copy of the Greek Septuagint but it was quote by St Augustine over 800 times and, most importantly, was declared Scripture at the Councils of Hippo and Carthage. It focuses on Wisdom guiding the lives of the faithful, the follies of the wicked, and focuses heavily on our future home with God and the life to come. For those of you familiar with the Nicene Creed, the Book of Wisdom is one of the sources of inspiration of our description of Jesus Christ. The reference to Christ being “Light from Light” is taken from Wisdom 7:26 which refers to Wisdom as being a “reflection of eternal light.” There are also several passages in Wisdom which foretell the death of Christ. One of my favorite passages is Wisdom 14:7, “Blessed is the wood by which righteousness comes,” which reminds me how truly blessed is the cross which held the Savior of the world, our perfect Sacrifice. Wisdom is very similar to the book of Proverbs in length and style. It points constantly to the Lord who, as James tells us, is ready to give wisdom to those who ask. #proverbs31woman #proverbs31 #womenintheword #virtuouswoman #godlywoman #godsgirl #christianliving #butgod #blessedandhighlyfavored #trustgod #daughteroftheking #walkbyfaith #daughterofaking #beautyfromashes #graceupongrace #dailydevotional #faithjourney #jesuslover #faithblogger #godisgood #graceoverperfection #michiganblogger #wordbeforworld #thinplaces #encouragingquotes #christianlife #christianencouragement
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Chances are, the Books of Maccabees are probably the deuterocanonical books you are most familiar with!  It is in these books that we find the origins of Hanukkah.
To be honest, they are a rough read. A really rough read. They detail the suffering the people of God endured while their enemies attempted to control their land and wipe out their religion. 
It is a set of books filled with great suffering as many of the faithful are killed but it is also a book of great bravery and trust in the Lord in the midst of trials.
In Maccabees, two of the theological principles used today are clearly seen. The first, that God created the world out of nothing. 2 Maccabees 7:28 details how God did not make the world out of things already created, but out of nothing. 
The second principle is that of praying for the dead. While there are references throughout Scripture and it is a clear practice of the Early Church, it is most clearly referenced in 2 Maccabees 12. 
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Chances are, the Books of Maccabees are probably the deuterocanonical books you are most familiar with! It is in these books that we find the origins of Hanukkah. To be honest, they are a rough read. A really rough read. They detail the suffering the people of God endured while their enemies attempted to control their land and wipe out their religion. It is a set of books filled with great suffering as many of the faithful are killed but it is also a book of great bravery and trust in the Lord in the midst of trials. In Maccabees, two of the theological principles used today are clearly seen. The first, that God created the world out of nothing. 2 Maccabees 7:28 details how God did not make the world out of things already created, but out of nothing. The second principle is that of praying for the dead. While there are references throughout Scripture and it is a clear practice of the Early Church, it is most clearly referenced in 2 Maccabees 12. #christianwoman #graceupongrace #jesusgirl #inspiredfaith #womenlivingwell #jesuscalling #faithfilledcaptions #catholicblogger #Catholicconvert #CatholicWoman #chasingsacred #christianwomenleaders #bibleverse #biblestudy #christianblogger #faithinhim #proverbs31woman #faithful #Godisgood #encouragementgallery #godslove #christianposts #christianquote #prayer #prayertime
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Judith is another archetypal story of the battle being won at the hand of a woman, seen also in Judges and Esther. 
During the reign of Nebuchadnezzar, an army is sent to destroy the mountain town that Judith lives in. The people are greatly distressed and death seems to be the only option. Judith, a wealthy widow, trusts in the Lord and ultimately, kills the opposing military leader and brings peace to the people.
It is a story of God’s provision for His people in their exile through an unlikely source, a widow. In Judith, we see an archetype pointing to Mary and to the Church, waiting for her true Bridegroom. 
But it is also a story that points to the Lord’s desire to draw all nations to Himself! One of my favorite parts of the book of Judith is that it tells us of the conversion of a man who initially sets out to fight the Jewish people coming to believe in the God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob. 
“And when Achior saw all that the God of Israel had done, he believed firmly in God, and was circumcised, and joined the house of Israel.” - Judith 14:10
It beautiful reminder that God’s deliverance is for all mankind. 
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Judith is another archetypal story of the battle being won at the hand of a woman, seen also in Judges and Esther. During the reign of Nebuchadnezzar, an army is sent to destroy the mountain town that Judith lives in. The people are greatly distressed and death seems to be the only option. Judith, a wealthy widow, trusts in the Lord and ultimately, kills the opposing military leader and brings peace to the people. It is a story of God’s provision for His people in their exile through an unlikely source, a widow. In Judith, we see an archetype pointing to Mary and to the Church, waiting for her true Bridegroom. But it is also a story that points to the Lord’s desire to draw all nations to Himself! One of my favorite parts of the book of Judith is that it tells us of the conversion of a man who initially sets out to fight the Jewish people coming to believe in the God of Abraham, Issac, and Jacob. “And when Achior saw all that the God of Israel had done, he believed firmly in God, and was circumcised, and joined the house of Israel.” - Judith 14:10 It beautiful reminder that God’s deliverance is for all mankind. #proverbs31woman #proverbs31 #womenintheword #virtuouswoman #godlywoman #godsgirl #christianliving #butgod #blessedandhighlyfavored #trustgod #daughteroftheking #walkbyfaith #daughterofaking #beautyfromashes #graceupongrace #dailydevotional #faithjourney #jesuslover #faithblogger #godisgood #graceoverperfection #michiganblogger #wordbeforworld #encouragingquotes #christianlife #christianencouragement
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