How To Strengthen Your Marriage By Praying With Your Spouse
We know we need to pray. Spending personal time seeking after the Lord is not a foreign concept to most of us, even if it is a struggle. Setting aside a bit of our life to align our heart and soul with our Heavenly Father is crucial to our spiritual health. If I neglect to seek God and to fill my mind with His truth, I and my family suffer.
I know this to be true. Even though it’s a struggle, I recognize and aim to make this my daily goal. But too often, I neglect to grow spiritually with my husband.
At the end of the day, we fall into bed, forgetting to even pray together, forget about sharing what God is impressing on our hearts.
Friends, I am foolish. If my marriage is to survive, much less thrive, the Lord must take the center. Growing together as a married unit is not isolated from our spiritual growth. If two are to become one, we must become one with Him.
Praying Together Unites You in Purpose
When you are pouring your hearts before the Father, you are not fighting, you’re joining together. Praying together aligns your hearts with one another as you seek to align them with God.
If my marriage is to survive, much less thrive, the Lord must take the center. Growing together as a married unit is not isolated from our spiritual growth. If two are to become one, we must become one with Him. Click To TweetWhen we are in a rough patch, hearing my husband pray for reconciliation and unity reminds me that, even if we aren’t seeing eye to eye, we are seeking the same goal. Praying for myself and my husband lets him hear my love and passion for him being expressed to God. When we pray together, we see that we are in this life together, not as individuals seeking our own paths but as a couple whom God has united, moving forward with His plan for us.
During the seasons where big decisions loom, praying together shows that we are moving forward in this decision together. Despite our personal opinions, we are seeking God and honoring Him together in the life we are creating.
Praying Together Put Your Marriage in the Context of Something Bigger
My marriage is not the end goal. At the end of my life, Jesus says that my marriage will be dissolved and both my husband and I, along with the rest of the Church, will be the bride of Christ. Praying with my husband reminds me of this.
When we pray together, we humble ourselves and remember the work of Christ on our behalf. No one can stand before God and claim their own righteousness. Our ability to pray is only by the merit of the Blood of Christ. When we are praying together, it takes down the pretense that I am better than my husband and reminds us both that we are sinners in need of a savior. Neither of us is where we need to be. Recognizing this through prayer helps us love each other better.
Praying Together Makes You More Holy
One of the most beautiful parts of marriages is the accountability we have in our spouse. They see the good, the bad, and the horrifically ugly in our lives. They love us despite this. And what’s more, a good spouse loves you too much to let you stay life that. Praying together invites them into your life as a means of accountability on your path to holiness.
We have the remarkable privilege of experiencing the presence of God with our spouse when we join in prayer. We would be utter fools to not take advantage of this. Click To TweetThe Bible tells us that where two or more are gathered, God is with us (Matthew 18:20). We have the remarkable privilege of experiencing the presence of God with our spouse when we join in prayer. We would be utter fools to not take advantage of this. When we pray with our spouse, we get to experience the presence of God in our life together. This allows us to grow in His ways as a couple and to have another believer who can intimately hold us accountable to what God is doing.
So ladies, let’s not neglect seeking out time on our knees before the Lord with our husbands. God works mightily in these moments. Never think that they are superfluous or unhelpful because they are a vital part of your marital and spiritual growth. Find time before you part in the morning. Carve out the last few minutes of the day before you turn the lights out and join your hearts in prayer. If you don’t know what to say, start by praying the words of the Lord’s Prayer together. Trust that God will bless this time and strengthen your marriage by His grace. Our Heavenly Father is good and this act of love and obedience will not go unnoticed.
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The Comments
Nicole Kauffman
Powerful post! Definitely need to work on praying more for and with my husband!
TheThinPlace
Nicole KauffmanIt is such a blessingv!
Diane@worthbeyondrubies
Great post!! It is so true..praying together takes your focus off yourselves and the problems you may have in your relationship and puts the focus on God. We often think of marriage as being the end goal..but the end goal as you said is being the Bride of Christ!! And hopefully we allow our marriage to bring us together toward that goal!
TheThinPlace
Diane@worthbeyondrubiesIt really helps refocus us all and brings such hope when we put our marriage in its proper context.
Created to Glorify
This is definitely something my husband and I need to work on!! We each pray with our son before bed, but we don’t pray together enough.
TheThinPlace
Created to GlorifyBedtime is a great time to start implementing this for yourselves as well!
Kristin Cook
Yes! Praying with your spouse and for your spouse are two critical things, but often really easy to forget. Thank you for the reminder to reorder my priorities.
TheThinPlace
Kristin CookThey are so simple but so crucial! Glad this as an encouragement to refocus.
mooremom523
Praying together is definitely something my husband and I need to get better at. My parents pray together every day and I know it has strengthened their 30+ year marriage!
TheThinPlace
mooremom523That’s so wonderful that you saw that example set by your parents!
Amanda
Prayer is so powerful! I’m always amazed by how it refreshes and encourages me. Making it part of every relationship is so important.
TheThinPlace
AmandaIt’s amazingly powerful. As Ann Voskamp recently reminded me, it’s not the least we can do, but one of the most critical things we can do.
Cayla
Wonderful post. It is so important to pray together. My husband and I need to do much more of this, because when we do, I feel more connected to him and happier in general!
TheThinPlace
CaylaIt’s such a good practice to integrate!
Marie
I’m not a very religious person, but my husband is. We recently visited a very holy place for his religion and as I sat in mosque after mosque watching him and others pray, I felt very moved by it all. It gave me a new found appreciation for his dedication to his spirituality.
TheThinPlace
MarieMarie, Thank you for sharing that experience. If it’s prompted you to look deeper into faith, I encourage you to read The Reason for God by Tim Keller. I read it in college and it really transformed the way I looked at myself and the world around me in a very positive way.
Meredith
Love this! I need to start praying more with my spouse instead of only praying solo. Thank you for the great reminders!
TheThinPlace
MeredithIt’s so helpful in uniting you spiritually.
kage2015
We pray together as a family. I pray my own personal prayers and every morning and evening my husband and I pray together. Makes all the difference in the world. How can you be upset with someone you are praying with.
TheThinPlace
kage2015It is such a game-changer!
The Frozen Mind
Wow! What an encouraging message! My husband and I take spells when we do this well and then it seems like something happens and we just get out of the habit. It seems like if we miss one night then it is hard to get on track again. This post is a great reminder of what God has promised for us if we pray together.
Thank you for sharing this,
Bailey
The Frozen MindHe has promised so much and we have the assurance that He is always faithful to His promises.
Madison @ The Weaver Fam
This post is a beautiful reminder! I need to do better in my prayer life in general. And it would help my marriage so much!
Bailey
Madison @ The Weaver FamPrayer is one of those things that tends to get put on the back burner but is so crucial for our spiritual health.
tweilbacher714
This is so true! Praying with your spouse can ONLY strengthen your marriage – not the opposite! Any time we are drawing nearer to God together, it can strengthen our bond. The old saying really has a lot of truth in it “The family that prays together stays together.” Of course it takes more than prayer alone (like living out our love for Christ!), but prayer is absolutely essential!
Bailey
tweilbacher714Yes! There is only good to be gained.
Gemma
What a great reminder. My busband and I are making lots of big decisions for our family right now and we have definitely been praying together much more.
Bailey
GemmaThat’s so wonderful, Gemma.
brandilmichel
“When you are pouring your hearts before the Father, you are not fighting, your joining together.” I love this quote. When we pray we are putting Jesus in the middle of our marriage and that’s where change happens!
Bailey
brandilmichelAmen!
Donna Reidland
Wonderful post! Sadly, this is something that many couples have neglected so long, it’s become hard to start. A friend told me recently that it was the sadness of her heart that her husband just wouldn’t pray with her. Blessings to you!
Bailey
Donna ReidlandIt’s so sad. My heart goes out to spiritually divided couples It’s definitely something to start practicing early on in your marriage.
Patrick Kahara Kuria
Peace and joy to you, very encouraging will follow up on the advice for its real according to the Word of God
Marilyn
This was just what I needed to read today. My husband and I have recently started praying together as a family